frequently asked questions
WHERE ARE YOU LOCATED?
I have a cozy, well-appointed private apartment in uptown Minneapolis. On-street parking is free & mostly painless. Additionally, the building is accessible for those with mobility concerns or difficulties. I am also happy to travel to your home or hotel within the Mpls/St. Paul metro area!
WHEN ARE YOU AVAILABLE TO MEET?
My schedule is quite flexible; I am generally available 7 days a week during reasonable waking hours. (For me, that means 8am-11pm or so.) My calendar does fill up in advance some weeks, & I have a full personal life that rarely allows for last-minute scheduling. Unless we have already met, please give me at minimum a 24 hour notice when you’d like to book an appointment. 48-72 hours is even better. I’m also happy to tentatively schedule a month or two in advance if that’s what you prefer.
WHAT TYPES OF PAYMENTS DO YOU ACCEPT?
Cold hard American currency will always work best for me. For returning clients, I can also accept electronic funds through Cash App, although for discretion I still prefer larger amounts in cash. Please bring cash to our appointment unless we have specifically discussed electronic payment.
DO YOU SEE COUPLES?
I absolutely adore working with couples, & am happy to see you together for no additional fee. I don’t believe that my services should ever be a “surprise” for anyone, so I will need to speak to both partners before confirming an appointment to make sure everyone is on the same page.
I DON’T THINK I’M YOUR TYPICAL CLIENT. WILL YOU SEE ME?
First of all, please abandon the notion that there is a “typical” client who seeks out sex workers! Companionship is a fundamental human need; people from all walks of life employ my services. I enthusiastically welcome folks of all genders, gender expressions, sexual orientations, body types, abilities, races, nationalities, religions, & ages (21+). My verification process does not take into account any of these factors.
I’M A VIRGIN. WILL YOU SEE ME?
I would be honored.
I AM INTO X/Y/Z FETISH. CAN YOU ACCOMMODATE?
I'm very kink-positive with years of experience in the world of BDSM. If you have an interest you’d like to explore in the safety of a professional setting, please know that I am openminded to most consensual activities, with the following caveats:
I am not at all submissive or interested in any play that restricts me physically, causes me pain, or is unhygienic in nature.
Please do not email me with explicit details of your interests! A very general sentence or two is plenty. We can discuss more frankly in person.
I require safeword use & a discussion of boundaries in person before any play involving impact or restraint.
While I have a nice assortment of toys for us to play with, if you have a specific gadget or gizmo in mind, you may want to purchase it & bring it with you when we meet.
WHAT’S YOUR POLICY ON DEPOSITS & CANCELLATIONS?
Please forgive the length of this section, as I want to be as clear as possible to avoid any misunderstanding.
To reserve a date, I require a 25% nonrefundable deposit from all new clients. This can be paid via Cash App once we have agreed on a date & time. Returning clients may be exempt from this policy at my discretion, unless repeated cancellations or other bad behaviors become a concern.
If you have paid a deposit & need to cancel:
Give me 48+ hours notice — I will apply your entire deposit to a future date (must occur within 30 days)
Give me 24-48 hours notice — I will apply 50% of your deposit to a future date (must occur within 30 days)
Give me 8-24 hours notice — you forfeit your deposit
Give me less than 8 hours notice — you forfeit your deposit AND must pay 50% of the remaining amount
Fail to notify, or notify me at/after our date start time — you forfeit your deposit AND must pay the entire remaining amount
If you have NOT paid a deposit & need to cancel: please be respectful of my time & give me at least 24 hours notice when possible. If less notice is given, depending on the situation & our relationship, you may be asked to pay a cancellation fee and/or required to pay deposits in the future.
I am a reasonable person & will consider exceptions to these policies for extenuating circumstances (e.g., very severe weather). Finally, on the rare occasion that I may need to cancel or reschedule an appointment, I am happy to either refund your deposit or apply it in full to a rescheduled date.
CAN YOU BRING A FRIEND?
Absolutely! Please see my friends page for a few suggestions of who might be able to join us. Advance planning is generally crucial in order to accommodate everyone’s schedules.
CAN I CALL YOU?
In true millennial fashion, I am not a big fan of phone calls. Returning clients are welcome to text me. The best way to for new clients to contact me initially is via my contact form. Once I’ve had a chance to look over your information, I’ll be in touch!
WHY DO YOU NEED MY PRIVATE INFORMATION?
I perform a thorough background check on all potential clients to ensure my safety. I need to know that you are who you say you are, & that you aren’t a serial killer or rapist. Folks in my line of work are historically more likely to be assaulted, robbed, or otherwise wronged on the job, usually with no legal recourse. I take this very seriously & will never see anyone who provides false or incomplete information for screening.
Rest assured that I am not in the business of "outing" my clients or using the information you give me for any purpose other than stated above. Doing so would quickly destroy my career & reputation.
ISN’T THIS ILLEGAL?
That is a complicated question with a grey answer. My rates are for my time, companionship, & non-erotic labor only. Nothing illegal about that!
But while you’re pondering this query, consider the many benefits of decriminalization of sex work & remember that the law often has no bearing on ethical value. As one Mike Ehrmantraut put it: “I've known good criminals and bad cops… You can be on one side of the law or the other, but if you make a deal with somebody, you keep your word.”
ARE YOU A COP?
The Breaking Bad universe really didn’t teach you anything, did it?
OK, BUT HOW DO I KNOW YOU’RE REAL?
I have had an established presence on the internet since at least 2008, having once participated heavily in the (thankfully now irrelevant) review & forum culture of websites like The Erotic Review. While I voluntarily removed myself from TER two years ago, you can peruse some screenshots of my old reviews if you wish.
More importantly, I have been active on Twitter since 2016 with a large following, & maintain excellent relationships with many colleagues & friends there. I am well-connected in my local circle of sex workers. The ads I maintain on websites like Preferred 411, Eros, Slixa & Tryst all require valid ID verification from me. I am a real, living, breathing, authentic human person!
I’M NEW TO THIS. WHAT CAN I EXPECT DURING OUR SESSION?
Many of the same things y0u might expect on a first date! I love to spend time talking, laughing & getting to know each other. I have beverages, snacks, & a couch to cozy up on while we get to know each other. If there is physical intimacy involved, it is always with mutual consent, ongoing communication & plenty of pillow talk. Ultimately, it’s up to you to decide the trajectory of our time together. My goal is to leave you a happier, more relaxed, more self-confident person than I found you!
IS IT WEIRD IF I DON’T WANT TO HAVE SEX?
Not at all. Consent is important to me. I will never pressure you into any activity you’re not fully comfortable with. Human connection is my job, not sex, & there are many ways to facilitate intimacy that don’t involve physical or sexual touch. There are also many ways to be sexual that don’t involve intercourse.
IS IT OKAY IF I SHOW UP DRUNK/HIGH?
I highly discourage you from attempting this. If you are visibly inebriated beyond one or two drinks, I will ask you to leave without a refund. I will not compromise my safety to entertain an overly intoxicated person.
That said, if you wish to bring a bottle of wine to share, assuming our date is after 5pm or so, I will happily share a small glass with you.
I’M RUNNING LATE OR EARLY. CAN YOU ACCOMMODATE?
Like any other professional, I expect my clients to show up at the time they’ve scheduled, not before or after at their leisure. If you’re running a few minutes late because of traffic or other unforeseen events, please text me to let me know. If you’re running early, please find something to do until our scheduled time arrives! Either way, I generally don’t have more than 30 minutes of flexibility in either direction, so please manage your time accordingly. I promise to do the same.
I’M NERVOUS ABOUT COVID-19. WHAT PRECAUTIONS ARE YOU TAKING?
I take the public health crisis very seriously, and as such have increased the time I spend cleaning, sanitizing, & disinfecting all surfaces of my incall apartment between each client. All bed linens & towels are fully changed between each guest. Disposable masks are available for our use if desired. Please see my COVID-19 page for more information.
I’M NERVOUS ABOUT STIs. WHAT PRECAUTIONS ARE YOU TAKING?
I am quite well-informed of the physical risks of my job & take responsibility for my own health & wellness. What precautions are YOU taking?
DO YOU WANT THE MONEY IN A SPECIFIC PLACE OR ENVELOPE?
It doesn’t matter to me. Truly. Hand it to me or set it on the table — as long as it’s taken care of at the very beginning of our date, I am not picky about the details. Just don’t make me ask for it. That’s awkward.
CAN I TIP YOU OR BRING YOU A GIFT?
Of course! I would be flattered. For what it’s worth, I'm a pretty practical type. I love an exquisite lingerie set as much as anyone, but at the end of the day I'd always prefer something a little more useful that furthers my long-term goals or extracurricular interests! In that vein, cash tips are always lovely & so appreciated.
That said, here are some other things I'd enjoy, should the urge strike you!
Something from my wishlist (link coming soon I SWEAR)
Lingerie (34-36D/L top, 10/L bottom) or giftcards: Playful Promises, Honey Birdette
Giftcards: Target, Amazon, REI, Chuck & Don's, Smitten Kitten
Books: I enjoy nonfiction of all kinds, esp. historical journalism & science/nature writing
Fresh fruit, smoked or fresh meats, olives, pickles, and chocolates/sweets in moderation ;)
WHAT ARE YOUR PET PEEVES, SO I CAN AVOID THEM?
Great question! Please be mindful of the following things that will make me unlikely to want to spend additional time with you in the future:
Not using your words. If you want to arrange my body a certain way, or attempt a certain position you saw online, I’m usually happy to oblige, but I need you to communicate your intentions to me. Silently pulling or pushing my body makes me feel cranky & unsafe.
Not understanding the difference between porn & real life. I have nothing but love & respect for porn performers! But they are just that — performers — skilled professionals on a set, intentionally creating a specific kind of viewing experience. Many things that look amazing in porn do not actually feel good to either partner in real life. Some can be downright painful. I may be a professional, but you are not, & insisting upon a reenactment of Pornhub’s greatest hits will only bring disappointment for both of us.
Gossiping about other providers. Please refrain from discussing my colleagues’ business practices, incall locations, or personal lives! We hold your private information in strict confidence & we expect you to do the same for us.
I’D LIKE TO USE YOU AS A REFERENCE FOR ANOTHER PROVIDER, IS THAT OKAY?
Absolutely. I am more than happy to provide a reasonable number of references for you, assuming we have met within the last year.
I HAD A GREAT TIME. CAN I WRITE YOU A REVIEW?
Probably not. I’m so glad you had a great time, but the majority of review sites require a level of intimate/raunchy detail that I am not comfortable with professionally, personally or legally. The culture surrounding sex worker reviews is incredibly toxic & I prefer to boycott the concept entirely. That said, I do understand the desire to read reviews before making a financial investment. If you cannot resist writing one of your own, I request that you do so in a PG-13 manner at Private Delights only.